Showing posts with label That's How I Roll. Show all posts
Showing posts with label That's How I Roll. Show all posts

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Waiting For The Repairman

April 22nd, 2009; 1:40 PM

Current mood:calm
"Suck it up." -That seems to be a big life lesson.
After being stood up one day, I am now finally getting the washing machine fixed. (Whew) I could die of mortification...but I've chosen not to. Thank god for the 60 pack of terry cloth towels I bought from Costco. They've been seeing us though this "trying time". The $600 part is about to be replaced (knock on wood)...the repair guy is going back to headquarters to retrieve it. And has promised me that he will be back TODAY to fix it. In the mean while, I'm cleaning. I've thrown away two bags of trash already, and a bag or two of recyclables. I've decided to give up on my stash of Christmas wrapping, ribbons, boxes, and bags...I'm recycling most of it. It feels good to just clear it out. Mom is resting in her room. The dog is chilling out in the yard. And I am happily munching my lunch as I write this. I have no idea where my towels are? Probably buried under the pile of unwashed laundry that has amassed next to the broken front-loader. After I finish washing my mom's bedding, I'll get to the towels. I spoke with a doctor today about La Suprema. Her regular physician was out, a sub called back and told me that the incontinence is most likely related to her recent infusion, and should wane. (THANK GOD!) Today, she made it to the toilet in time. Which is pretty good. Last night she wasn't so lucky. All in all, things keep going. We keep doing the best we can. (THE REPAIR GUY JUST CAME BACK! YAY!) I feel good already.
I remember reading a book years ago on how to make peace. it explored some of the reasons that conflict initially arises, and one of them has to do with self-esteem. It asserted that when we lack self-esteem, we are more easily affected, hurt, and angered by external circumstances. That a person with self-esteem would not take to heart another persons anger, rejection, etc. And that the best way to build self-esteem is to do actions that we would feel proud of. One of the things that I feel really good about is how I've been with my mom. When she's embarassed or scared, I just soothe her and encourage her, and let her know that it's no big deal. I make sure she knows that she is loved and valued. That she is safe and cared for, and that everything is going to be all right. It's not like my mom and I had any major peace-building to do...but it still makes me feel good, that she feels good, and that I am doing something in my life that is right. (Repair guy had to go back to Sears for a part...Wish me luck!)

12th Time's A Charm Eh?

April 13th, 2009; 11:37 PM
I just found out the reality of a certain persons timelines. You know when you find out the truth...and there's that "aha moment"? But not the kind of "aha moment" that Oprah's having, where you see the light and it all becomes clear, and suddenly you are empowered with clarity and wisdom....I'm talking about the "aha moment" where you finally get it. And you realize that the reason his story was full of holes, and that the timelines were seriously wonky, was because he wasn't being forthcoming and honest. And now he (supposedly) is (but honestly lord only knows the truth about that! And I'd have to be some kind of stupid to fully believe everything he says at this late juncture). And you understand the previously unexplained silence and awkwardness of those who were in the periphery -friends...his father that knew the truth long before you did and didn't want to be involved or have to tell you something that frankly he should have. And you feel embarassed. Not that you should...because this time you didn't really do anything wrong. This time, you were just stupid. And stupid's not a crime in this state (yet). You trusted someone that you should have been able to trust...and it just didn't serve you well in this instance. Oh well. Let it go. Try not to read too much into it or let it affect you. You don't want to be one of those bitter types with all of their prickly outsides, and carefully gaurded insides, and no trust in humanity. You prefer to leave with your dignity intact (yes Mark...that is the story..and I'm sticking to it. I am walking away with my head held high, and my dignity intact.) and your preserved open heart, and enthusiastic, resilliant ability to love DEEPLY. And BIG TIME. Because that's how I roll. So there.